It was an accidental meet
online for Ashna Devi and Marilyn Huijgens in 2009. Ashna, originally from Fiji
Islands and Marilyn, born in the Netherlands to an Irish mammy and Dutch daddy,
hit it off immediately, Skyping for six months before the big meet. Ashna
recalls the beginning of her relationship with her beloved ‘Mars’. “Mars flew
to New Zealand to meet me on May 12, 2010. I then flew back to Ireland with her
a month later and have been here since.”
three blissful years of dating Mars got down on one knee and proposed to Ashna.
“We went up to Donegal for a midweek break. I was hoping to propose to her on
the beach by writing in the sand ‘will you marry me?’ but the weather was so
bad that day with wind and rain it was safer to stay away from the beach. When
we got to the hotel, Ash was videoing the suite we were in so while she had her
back turned, I grabbed the ring and kneeled down behind her while nervously
saying “Bubba, I want to ask you something…” and she then slowly turned around
and I smilingly asked ‘will you marry me?’ with the ring in my hand. She said
“Aw baby, of course I will.’ It was a very emotional moment.”
began the wedding planning. The date was set for August 28, 2015. 80 of the
girls’ closest friends and family were invited with 20 more joining the afters.
The stunning Muckross Park Hotel in Killarney, Co. Kerry was the chosen venue
for their big day.
was your experience at the Muckross Park Hotel? “Our wedding day was epic, thanks to the atmosphere, setting,
staff and service at Muckross Park Hotel. It is an absolutely magical
place, the setting is amazing, the staff are professional and always
up for a friendly little chat and make it their business to make sure you
have a real five star experience. The bedrooms (especially the bridal suite)
are fab and boost with character, as does the Monk Lounge where you can relax
with a drink or with some friends, as we did the night before the wedding.
all, a real FIVE star experience.”
also lit a candle in memory of Ash’s parents right before the ceremony began.
ceremony, it was time to enjoy their fabulous reception with their guests. “The
dancing we did when entering the reception room for dinner, we chose the song
‘Hold my hand’ by Jess Glynne, I couldn’t stand still so once we were ready to
be seated at the top table and the song was still playing, I was dancing next
to Ash while looking at her and singing to her ‘I’m ready for this, there’s no
denying, I’m ready for this, you stop me falling…’, it was such an amazing
caught by their photographer David McLean. After an emotional rollercoaster of
a fabulous wedding day, the newlyweds are now settling into married life and
planning their honeymoon to New Zealand at the end of the year.
did it mean for the girls to marry the love of their lives? Ashna gushes about
her wife. “It was the best day of my life to be able to marry Mars. As I
mentioned earlier, we worked very hard battling many obstacles over the last
five years but our wedding day just showed that we are able to tackle any
obstacle in our way by being together. She is my pookie bear and I can’t
imagine me sharing my life with anyone else.” Marilyn concurs, “The last five
years we dealt with a lot from having to prove our relationship for Ashna’s
immigration status in Ireland to her dads’ passing and every single one of
those obstacles tested our relationship but we came through every one of them
and I can safely say that I couldn’t have done that with anyone else but her.
our own unique little language that we use sometimes when we talk to each
other, the cute talk, that am sure lots of couples have and I love the fact I
can be as silly or crazy as I want around her and she tells me off where
necessary . And of course with the Marriage Equality referendum passing in May,
this was a huge year for us too so it means the world to be able to say that
within the next few months we can say we are wifey and wifey and not just civil
wore a dress. Ashna got a beautiful Indian style anarkali which she had custom
made by an online shop in London. It had beautiful stonework on the front of it
and the colours were just fab on her. I wore a bordeaux coloured halter-neck
style dress which I bought in a bridal shop in Dublin. Our colours went very
well together. Our theme was gold so my dress, Ashna’s dress and that of the
bridesmaids all tied in together using gold.” The roles of bridesmaid were
given to Ashna’s sister and two of their friends.
forget the dapper lads of course. “We didn’t have groomsmen as such but we had
two pageboys which were our nephews ,aged 4 and 5. Our oldest nephew, 12, was
the ring bearer and Marilyn’s dad, brother, cousin, and my brother all wore the
same colour suits and ties.”
ladies had their make up done by the talented staff at Muckross Park Hotel Spa.
“They were excellent and again very nice to deal with. They did a great job at
making us look our best on the day.”
Marilyn and Ashna recall with fondness the moment they first laid eyes on each
other on their wedding day. Marilyn shed tears of joy at the sight of her
bride. “I was in floods of tears but didn’t care, she looked absolutely amazing
and I could tell by the reaction of our friends and family they all shared the
same feeling,” recalls Marilyn. And that set Ashna off! “I think for me it was
of course seeing Marilyn coming down the stairs was extremely emotional. I was
actually composed until she walked over crying, of course that then set me off,
but they were only happy tears. We came a long way since we met in 2010 and I
suppose the day was a reward for having worked so hard to get to where we are
now.” The ceremony, officiated by Civil Registrar Mary T.O’Shea, was also a
highlight for the Fiji native.
ceremony itself was absolutely beautiful and I loved the fact that there were
funny moments, like when I tried to put the ring on Marilyn’s finger, it
initially looked like it wasn’t going to fit, but then it did. The speeches
were also fantastic and definitely one of my favourite moments,” shared Ashna.
us about your experience working with David Mc Clean of DMC Photography
McLean was our photographer. There wasn’t one moment where Mars and I felt
uncomfortable or felt that we couldn’t be ourselves. David really made us feel
at ease and he knew how to get a smile or laugh out of us, mind you, I don’t
think it required too much effort. We could not fault David as a photographer
and the end result photographs prove he did a fantastic job.” David McLean